Rene Denfield has written a piece for The New York Times’ Modern Love column that really destroyed me, emotionally:
To be a parent is to step into a great unknown, a magical universe where we choose to love over and over. It is an act of courage no matter what.
“Didn’t you want your own?” people would ask.
“They are my own,” I would say, softly.
By adopting from foster care, I became the mother I had needed and rewrote my own story. I got to have a childhood all over again, the right one, filled with cuddles and perseverance, safety and love. If there is such a thing as a cycle of abuse, I broke it over the wheel of my own desire.